Updated Post: April 11, 2020
Yikes! This is a scary time our society is going through right now as we’re staying at home to flatten the COVID-19 curve. As a bride or mother of the bride, you may be trying to determine how COVID-19 impacts your wedding. If your wedding is in the next 90 days, you’re probably trying to figure out what to do. COVID-19 and your wedding can be very scary and tumultuous right now!
Brides, grooms, and their parents are concerned about the well-being of their loved ones as well as trying to understand wedding options and the financial impact during the COVID-19 pandemic.
What Will Wedding Life Look Like after the Stay At Home orders are lifted?
This is what we know so far:
- Restrictions on social gatherings will likely last for months in the absence of a cure or vaccine, according to Governor Polis of Colorado on April 10, 2020.
- Guests may still be hesitant to expose themselves to other people, especially older guests and those with compromised immune systems.
- Hugging, kissing, and physical contact will be discouraged.
- Reception venues may need to increase the space between tables and the number of people at each table so your venue may require you to adjust your guest list.
- Wedding dinner options may change, and buffets may not be available, appetizers may need to be passed instead of set out for guests.
- Guests may choose to wear masks to your wedding and reception.
- Social distancing will continue to be encouraged.
- Hand sanitizer and anti-bacterial wipes will play a part in your wedding.
- Guests who need to travel to weddings may be scared, and there may not be as many travel options available.
- More guests may cancel at the last minute or no show due to illness.
Venues are closed and trying to figure out what gatherings will look like in the future when the future is uncertain. COVID-19 has caused a considerable loss of income in the wedding industry and a great deal of stress for brides, grooms, mothers of the bride, and all of their loved ones.
Wedding Decision Factors
If your wedding is soon, you’re faced with these possible decisions… postpone, cancel, elope and do a party later, continue as planned, or continue on a smaller scale. Each of these options is a tough decision and carries financial and health/ wellness impacts.
Health and Wellness – Think about your well being as well as the wellness of others. Especially since some guests may have elderly family members in their homes or have compromised immune systems. Also, wedding guests may not show signs of the disease but
Personal Preferences – You and your fiance have thoughts and preferences around your wedding. Maybe you want to keep the date but reduce the guest list to family only and then hold a friends and family reception at a later time. Perhaps you want to postpone your wedding for a few months.
Financial – Review your contracts and work with your venue, vendors, and wedding planner to determine the financial implications of postponing, canceling, or proceeding with a smaller guest list.
6 Steps for Making Decisions about Your Wedding and COVID-19
- Read your contracts from your vendors and venues. Pay special attention to cancellation, impossibility to perform and postponement clauses.
- Think about your options. What do you want to do? What’s most important to you and your fiance? What is your best-case scenario? What is your worst-case scenario? Be open and flexible.
- Communicate with your venues, your vendors (photographer, officiant, caterer, DJ, transportation, florist, etc), and your wedding planner. Have a phone conversation with them and ask the vendors where they stand. They may have some ideas that you haven’t thought of yet. Most venues and vendors will try to work with you. They’re potentially losing a lot of money during this time.
- Document your conversation in an email to ensure everyone has the same understanding. The vendors and venues are talking to many other brides, so take the initiative to document your conversation.
- Make a list of things that need to be stopped or canceled, add any new tasks to your wedding planning checklist, and check in on your outstanding wedding planning tasks to adjust the dates if needed.
- Communicate any changes and safety precautions to your family and guests.
“Walking into the wedding, guests were greeted with servers holding silver trays full of hand sanitizer and were handed a glass of Champagne by a waiter wearing a white glove. A pack of Lysol wipes was placed at each guest’s seat, and rolls of monogrammed toilet paper were available too. “Love in the time of coronavirus: Couples are scrambling to prepare last-minute wedding alternatives BY STEPHANIE CAIN
Wedding Safety Tips
- Have hand sanitizer at the entrance, in the restrooms, and on your tables.
- Add white gloves to your wedding attire. Servers and guests can all wear gloves.
- Encourage social distancing. Ask the officiant and your DJ to remind guests during the ceremony and reception.
- Make signs or add in COVID-19 safety tips on your programs… No hugging, kissing or shaking hands.
- Can you do a live feed for people who can’t attend? Maybe do a FaceTime first look with your grandparents, so they feel special. Zoom is becoming a popular wedding tool.
- Reevaluate a buffet or setting out appetizers and change to a plated dinner and servers passing appetizers.
Post weddingupdates on your wedding website or createa Facebook group for updates.
- Use your wedding website or Facebook group, to ask guests if they are still planning on coming to your wedding. Your vendors will still need a guest count, and you don’t want to pay for meals for people who can’t attend.
Remember B-R-E-A-T-H! You have put a lot of work into your wedding and it’s natural to be frustrated, sad, and mad. Please don’t take it out on your wedding vendors. The more understanding you are, the more your vendors will try to make something work for you.
None of us have control over this virus, and it’s important that we listen to the health experts. Please feel free to reach out to me. Blessings to each of you, and take care!
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